The other day when we were walking in the sunshine, Mac turned to me - stopped - and said 'If somebody asked me, Do you kow where you are? I'd have to say, Christ no...I have no idea???All said with a quite a contented look on his face..I said, "Well you know you are in lachine, right?? ' Oh yeah? and then he was on to other thoughts and quite happy saying how everything was so lovely and warm, except they should clean up the mess..turns out the mess was leaves all over the sidewalk. I pointed out how beautiful the colors were, but then sometimes his perception of color is not on target or his for that matter perception of a mess i other times it's fine...so one never knows...
How aware is he of his problems?? sometimes so much so that he cries and realizes that he is in limbo and life is terrible...other times like this morning he was not going to put up with people who dress him, they are all Bimbos...and he will have to go away...or like the night before when he was absolutely livid, so furious that he was still holding his hands in fists after the woman got him ready for bed...saying he felt awful, (she was showing someone new how to do the job...) he was feeling humiliated and was near tears speaking through clenched tears, as he said, 'she stripped me naked in front of the girl" ...
So i stayed in the bathroom this morning and tonight when the preposay came - made sure he was partially covered at all times - but he also had a different girl, one who is really on the ball, kind and makes jokes, talks about her day and his day- this makes it all pleasant.
.the one he hates does it automatically cannot speak English, and seems to smile in inappropriate places - I also reported to the head nurse that he did not like her, but apparently they are very short staffed - also the Director is away, so tomorrow a.m. he will have the preposay that made him so upset back again.. I will definitely be there and will make sure he has me to talk to and the girl covers him when she is not washing that part of his body...just when one thinks everything is going so smoothly boom it all changes...
One of our neighbours from our old neighbourhood mentioned how well he is doing here, and I said - right, walks better, more on target most of the time, has fewer sundown problems, less aggravated, even though for sure all the time he is only in the moment and really is trying to make the best of the situation..and then i added he fell three times there but has never fallen here...well today it happened...he was walking into the front area from the hallway, and i was leading the way to the bedroom to put away my purse, when i heard bang..came into the front room to see him flat on his back...thankfully on a carpet so didn't seem to have hurt himself, and surprised me by turning on his side...I was able to get him to get on his knees and pull himself up using a chair i held for him.. Before we came here the only way he could get up was by calling the neighbour...who was able to lift him up..so maybe that's an improvement of sorts, but how he fell, is strange, right on his back, seems he lost his balance. Apparently this happens and may happen more and more...so must mention this to his doctor.
He got over feeling shaky, and seems to have forgotten already, but I must make sure to be behind him and near him - it gave me such a scare, but for mac he seemed to be more amazed that it happened at all...took the opportuity there to show him that he cannot stay in the apartment alone, as he was complaining about going to my study group with me, wanting to stay home by himself...well that's not going to happen for sure.
We were surprised to see that my friend's mom left her cane here, she has the big A. and came with my friend yesterday for a visit..i suggested he try out her cane, but no way, so i guess he will have to rely on the old cane or the old walker, both of which are embodied in the old reliable - ME...
So he is happily asleep, (i hope) so must check that out, as one never knows ...g'nite.
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