Well yes it was, it was Mac's 84th birthday on Monday, January 13, although we celebrated it with family on Saturday, January 11th...I haven't a clue why, but he would not accept the fact that it was his birthday, in fact it was only last night when one of our friend's called and said, 'hey, happy birthday mac, that he said 'well thank you very much'...He got emails and phone calls and of course i wished him a happy birthday..but he'd just laugh or say, i don't celebrate birthdays...so i said it's your birthday you are 84...he said ' no i'm not 84, i said how old would you like to be...he laughed and said 15...well birthdays are just a number so why not choose any old number
Today Alice one of our table mates downstiars..asked us to pick up couple of mars bars for her when we were out, so when we brought her the bars, she thanked us, then said, 'i want to speak to Mac, - so Mac got close to her as she has problems seeing and hearing...she said...Mac - happy birthday...he said ' oh is it still my birthday, and laughed...', i told her it was yesterday, but not to worry it's always nice to hear Happy Birthday...then I had to go back to our apt. to get her some change, left Mac with her...and in a way it's good she can't hear well, as when i came back Mac said, "i wonder what's keeping him, and then he saw me and said, oh there he is...That is one of the strange things...Mac constantly gets genders wrong...it doesn't seem to be based on looks or anything, it's "he" most of the time....for everyone...must check this out....
Another constant is his thought that he is very poor - has no money - and wonders where he will sleep ..today we went to the bank, and i told him here is your bank balance, you are doing very well...'oh this is our bank, and i have money??? Right and i go through the usual routine, you worked for CN, you paid into a pension fund, and now you are retired you receive your pension evey month through the bank...one of the good things when i say that is to see just how happy he is, he smiles and chuckles and says, 'gee that's terrific, i always worry, and think where can I go where will i sleep, i have no money...i love to hear him be so happy...but then I realize how sad it must be to be thinking - where will i sleep ...
I'm not sure if i mentioned that i received a gift or what i consider a fantastic gift, it is a tape that a friend in Australia, made into an mp3, and sent to us...it is a tape Mac made as a kind of letter as he and our friend owen communicated by tape, talking to each other way back in 1987. i am so thrilled that owen saved the tape, and there i can hear the man i married, so articulate, so i think, amazingly understanding and commenting on world problems, and happenings of the day...then to comment on local and personal events..t'was such that it made me weep, but i'm still so happy to have this tape, don't intend to play it again for a long time, but just to know it's there, it's a souvenir i will treasure.
He has been having some problems during the night with dreams that keep him hunting for things, and talking moving and very restless ...which of course means problems for me, so since it's not a sure thing that this won't happen tonight...i'm off to bed, and hopefully we'll both sleep...so g'nite.
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