Friday, June 20, 2014 I think my Mother lives near here....

That's again one of Mac's thoughts  ...his mother - he ofen thinks he sees her.  Today he said i think my mother lives near here.   Yesterday, he said - I think my mother is still alive,  right?   What does one answser - I try to say hmmm yes perhaps she does, but I didn't see her, when he asked if his mom was still alive, I answered, well you are eighty-four, so that would make her very very old, so I really wonder if she is still alive...When he says he thought he saw her, I usually say, right, maybe so, never know but there are so many women who look sort of like your mom...she was small - with white hair...hmmm well maybe  you did.   He seems content with those answers.  I used to answer that i didn't think  she was still alive, and that would make him cry..and i remember that our group leader said that was making the person grieve all over again...and also my daughter Gaye's friend went through this with her mom..Gaye said the best thing is to go along with the thought that possibly she is still there...which makes him feel better..and so far it works...

Some of the emails i receive regarding my blog are interesting and these are some of the answers

Thanks for the comments re our picture...sent it out to a few people who are interested in the A. cafe and while i was at it sent it to the family and you to show how well Mac looks with his tan and even though he is not on target ....he still manages to kind of smile for pictures  ha.  Funny he cannot seem to focus on pics i tried to show him, himself and myself in that  picture, but he just says oh yeah, but he really doesn't seem to see it, i say do you see me, and he really doesn't...must call eye specialist..although  last time he said, his perception is off, and it's part of the disease...well his  perception is the pits, but i thought he should be able to see different people in a pic, but he cannot.

As to having a bath in a - say walk in shower, or kind of jacuzi bath in a tub room for seniors,  there is one in the infirmerie downstairs, and on the 2nd (lockdown floor); but it would still be the same - i.e.he would say - - nuts - get away,  bugger off etc..because he would have to be undressed and get in the ...unknown.. and each time he would forget just what it is...Getting in the tub is not really a big problem for him,  he has great support and the side of the tub is very low..the big problem is he does not want to have  a shower period....as for a bath, well he could never have that as he can't get  up from the floor of the tub..he has a very good chair in the shower...some mornings he causes a fuss because he doesn't want anyone to dress him..some mornings, he doesn't want to get out of bed..and other days he can be up and out of the bedroom before me, it's never the same....just have to go with the flow.

Anyway, do keep your ideas and comments coming, some click and others don't but not to worry, i need all the help i can get...so thanks for thinking of us. 

.so no regrets, we're old now and have to be happy with just having such a lovely family, and life, and make the days here as much fun as possible, and for sure that's what we're doing, we spent from 1;00 to 6;00...down at the lake here...yesterday...it was so lovely...we're lucky to be where we are...though of course i could wish for better health for mac, as it's heartbreaking to see him but he does have his moments of fun too..which makes me happy...

that's it for today g'nite