This is Mac trying to tell me his meat was cold...it wasn't cooked well, but the sad thing is it took all supper to tell me this..he went on and on trying to explain ..and i just couldn't get it. Today in the elevator one of the preposees asked him - How are you...He gave a thumbs up sign..so she said...Good, high five and put up her hand fast...poor Mac, jumped out of the way...she couldn't figure out what the problem was but she was getting off, and just smiled and waved goodbye...but Mac looked quite puzzled, so i tried to explain high five, well, forget that. More and more the frustrations he endures are getting to him, and where he used to kind of laugh and say "oh to hell with it'. now in many cases, he tries to endure and get to say what he means...this can take 45 minutes, as that is how long it took him to try to say - ' who do i pay to stay in our apartment'...
This happened when we were leaving the lake this evening..which by the way, was a great day - super weather, and a wonderful walk ..I said well, we must get back it's already past supper time, it was 6:00 p.m. ..he said - where are we going..oh i said, i mean we must get back to our home, our apartment...and that's when it started...
Who is it, where do we do it, how do i get it...this all said slowly and almost painfully, as he tried to figure out who pays for the apartment...who has money...by 6:45, we were still going through money and how he gets it, who he has to pay for the apartment.etc etc...I must say that i kind of lost it, we were going past our bank on the way back, i almost wanted to drag him in there, and say 'would you mind just showing my husband his money... and then take it back' ha. Then to top it off, when he got in he needed to go to the toilet, was trying to flush, and so I did it for him, then he said...how much do i pay for that...How happy i was to say, "it's free...even when you go to a toilet in another place, "it's free" no money, ...and he said, that's o.k. i don't really care, i can just go anywhere i want....'well no you can't - you have to go in a bathroom..'...no he said with a laugh,,,you have to...i can go wherever i want..in the woods, ...no problem there, he could say it all...it's really strange...
Thankfully, supper was good, cooked to his liking, and all was well...so i'm a happy camper, as it's really not only frustrating for him when he can't communicate..it becomes a real brain twister for me, trying to figure out...what does he mean...if only he knew more sign language..but he never could pick it up..so far patting his pocket, means where is my wallet , rubbing his nose, means i need a hanky, and kind of holding his tummy - means where's the toilet..
.tomorrow should be interesting, he will be with two of my friend's husbands- and one of my friend's mother..they all have the big A...but at different stages...and different types of Dementia so...i don't really expect to see communication between them, but one never knows...we friends are all from the support group, and we so need and enjoy each other...this is the first time we've tried to do this..hopefully even if they don't talk to each other...they will relax and enjoy the day...so we'll see..g'nite.
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