and on and on the curse words came as poor Vedette tried to give Mac a shower...she finally did get him to have a shower, but wants me to get a valium or something to give him one hour before she comes...and I sure don't blame her..It was a terrible scene, not only with her but with myself as well...To be clear it is not really a shower she has a chair for him and a kind of shower phone or whatever which she carefully uses with soap and tested water for warmness etc...but having someone do this - plus get him dressed etc etc...causes frustration for Mac and frustration is what causes the anxiety and the outbreaks of violence on his part.
The doctor has prescribed a sleeping pill of some type for him, I do not want the psychotic drug, but he has promised a lighter one so that he will sleep during the night...hopefully this will help both of us..Me so that i sleep too, and Mac that he can get enough sleep at night so he doesn't have to sleep in the morning. All this might backfire, but we can only try...will pick up the pills tomorrow...
I remember in my last blog I mentioned that we would be going to a get together with others whose parent or husband has a type of dementia...this get-together was wonderful, and though none of the participants with the big A. said one word to each other...they sat together and seemed quite content...to watch us, swim in a beautiful pool, and eat with us, and listen to us all gabbing together happily, and they seemed happy too....
I noticed my friend's mother seems to be keen always to know where are we, what area, what lake is that, and each place we drove through it was the same questions, over and over...whereas...Mac's questions are more based on time and what time is it, shouldn't we be doing this or that...and 'did i bring my wallet' how much is this ...my other friend's husband would call her and say, think it's time for a nap, or where do I sleep, but for the most part...they were all fine and didn't seem to see or question anything about each other...strange.
Mac is happily right now listening to jazz, and for him music is the part of his life that is pleasant, and still a source of happiness for him... today we enjoyed a day at my friend's home or residence in the posh Symphonia and although it's like a big beautiful hotel, with a swimming pool that is really gorgeous...landscaping terrific, view perfect...i could even move there, there is support staff for Mac, I can't really put my finger on just why, but I do not want to leave this place, which is homey, where everyone knows Mac, and even though I can think of a few things that really need changing, mainly, the food ...I love the crazy ambiance, the various types of life styles and various nationalities we see every day of the week in our little park...not to mention all the dogs, cats, etc. Though, I could change the bad habits people have of dropping their garbage right near a garbage can...(these things i pick up and put in the garbage)....i still like the little park...not to mention the big park along the lake...even that is better at my friend's residence, there is a path along the St. Lawrence river...which is cleaner too...oh well, maybe one day...but not today or anytime soon.
Hopefully tomorrow morning will be better, and then the next day, we're off to the lake again, last time the visit was one night stayover, twas not the best night, but I'm hopeful for the weekend, and who knows. all will be well, think positive, one day at a time, one hour and one moment at a time, enjoy NOW, g'nite.
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