Everyone has some sadness in their lives, even little children, some more than others as we look at the Syrian refugees and those living displaced lives, one can only try to be a support monetarily if not physically. Talking of support, I think that is the basis of love. My good friend is going through such a hard time watching and helping her daughter and her family as her daughter is going through cancer treatments.
This is such a scourge, cancer, as well as Parkinson disease, ALS, Alsheimers etc...without naming the friends that have these diseases, I am trying to be positive and a support and although in some cases the problems is age-related... many of my friends suffering these diseases are young, like the young mother going through one treatment after another. This is what I wrote in an email to that family as I listen to how they support one another.:-
It is such a truth - supporting each other in this kind of situation is the key to keeping everyone positive, we have had this, as you know. This is when we see how much family and friends mean. Not to forget the medical care -
Having all that explained fully and knowing just what is expected - well courage and love to all I will keep thinking and praying for all of you and I take away the hell on earth part..and say live in the good moments...xxxjan.
So equating support as LOVE for one another is what life is all about..that is the way to being positive..
Yesterday, I did my usual walk along the lake.sat on "our bench" said hello to Mac and communed with him and nature. The lake is pretty well frozen, some people are out "ice-fishing" a sport(?) I often wonder about..how much fun is there in sitting on a chair beside a hole or holes in the ice waiting to catch fish - but perhaps that is their way of dealing with stress in life, who knows, I don't know any ice fishermen.
Today I have started the day with that email and it started me thinking about the early days of Mac's memory and how he struggled with it. So I read a couple of pages from a lovely little journal, with a beautiful cover and hand made paper. I wrote... this book is strictly for poems, good thoughts, songs and all things positive. The date Oct. 7, 2011 - That would have been about three years into really seeing the effects of the big A. on Mac. well those wonderful ideas i.e. poems songs and positive thoughts kind of went by the wayside as LIFE got in the way. On Oct. 30th 2011..I was happy that Mac remembered an old friend he used to see in Buffalo..remembered the first and last name and was so thrilled with himself..I was so happy for him, I couldn't remember the name at all, though we both were talking about the fun we had with that friend when we were teen-agers.
Another entry in that journal takes us to 2012 - Mac said "I'm so happy we're back together, we've been apart for so long. " Well we were not apart, but somehow in his mind we were..I tried to explain that he had a memory problem, then realized that was not really helpful..so said I'm happy we're together too. He said your name is Janet, I'll never forget it-I see that I have written, "he probably will, but I won't let him ever forget me."
The time goes by and LOVE continues, we supported and loved each other in our family, and still do.. and like my friend said, with support we are able to continue and be positive. Enjoy the good moments and appreciate each other...g'day I'm off to the lake.
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