Tonight while i was cycling away on the stationary bike in the Activities room, Mac was watching me with the furrow between his eyebrows, which means - deep thinking. Sure enought, when i got off the bike (big deal i stay on for about 5-10 min) Mac said, "I have a question for you..." I usually get a bit anxious as it could be something that makes us have to talk all night in circles...re; his mother, his money, his bank account...but tonight's question was...You are a girl - right?? Well that's easy, yes, for sure, i answered. 'Well then, said Mac..we have got to stop being together'...Why, was my reply...For one thing, he said, I'm not married and I really don't know you that well ...people will be wondering about us.."
Well, that, I knew meant we'd have this conversation for a good part of the night, and I was right....When i said we were married, he laughed so spontaneously that I thought...o.k. it's funny, but we have to be together, so let's get serious here...Sure i said we really are ...no, he said,we are not, and i don't want people talking and looking at us..it's not right...This while we are doing our little nightly walk, and people are looking at us and waving, and mac is waving shyly back..and murmuring see we should not hold hands...stop holding my hand. So i stopped...and tried distracting as we then picked up a pile of mail...stopped to say goodnight to our friend Muriel. since she was not feeling too well, he was able to think about that for a bit...but the conversation continued in this line ..right up to when we were brushing our teeth before bed.
With him saying, o.k. what is your name? it's janet right - but what's your last name...'i answered same as yours, McConnell..then i said, look mac, I have papers and pictures to prove we are married, so please, just stop worrying about the neighbours and the people here...They know we are married, and I have proof..
.well with that, he turned and said, 'oh isn't that's great, good, I'm so happy" end of story.
Well it won't really be the end as it will probably all come up again, but who knows where or when.
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Another little story today - Mac came with me to an Alzheimer's support group meeting, sat near the group, with his eyes closed...when we were leaving, they all said goodbye and hope to see him again...these 5 people all spoke about the big A. and how it effected their mother, wife, husbands..so I was surprised when he answered, "well you may see me again, but don't expect me to remember what you were talking about, as it was all noise to me'...he said this rather in sperts, as sometimes his words don't come out too clearly, but they understood, and one said, "well you will just have to join us at the table.' That was rather a surprising answer too..as we are supposed to be talking about our husbands etc..but for sure he won't really listen, or I don't think so...
One thing we all agreed on when one of the group reported that a nurse said that when a person with A..acts aggresively and like an Ass hole, (the nurse's term)..they were always an Ass hole...WELL we all agreed that that was entirely unprofessional, and for sure NOT TRUE...
well it's been an interesting , tiring day and my thoughts and writing as usual are going down the tubes...so onward to bed and to my husband...whether he thinks i'm his wife or not..g'nite...
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