Just gave Mac his bedtime eyedrops and tucked him in, then he said 'Will this go down now"...he either thinks that the bed he is in is on an elevator, or on a train, or anywhere but in a bedroom. So i explained to him as i usually have to do, that we are in an apartment, it is stationary does not move...and not to worry, i'm coming to bed and we'll wake up in the morning have breakfast and all will be well....
How really important it is to let him know that he doesn't have to worry, he is alright, but how sad it is to see the many disoriented and upset people who have the big A, struggle to try to figure out their lives...Tonight when we went down to visit and say goodnight to our friend muriel, one lady was trying to bring herself and her wheelchair into the room we were in...saying there was a meeting..Muriel pointed out that the lady was much more settled these days, that in the past she was a terrible person, always looking for a fight and upsetting everyone.
This is so often the case that at times - especially in the beginning of the big A. many affected are trying to make head and tail out of their lives and are so frustrated and angry..wondering what the h. is going on. sometimes they hallucinate and think others are after them, and /or perhaps they are due to go to a meeting, - where is it, who is going etc...why are people looking at them in a funny way...
Getting older is no joke when one is not well, but how awful it is when it combines with Alzheimer's disease..I'm so thankful that for the most part both Mac and I are healthy...and he can see the problems of others and try to be helpful...i thought it was so sweet of Mac to say to Muriel as we were leaving...'well did you have a good day, you don't feel sick today..' as so often she is unwell, and though not suffering from A she has so many other problems that having a day free from pain is not ever going to happen to her...so i'ts neat to see Mac remembering and being kind, but would he be that way, if he didn't feel stable and cared for himself, I really don't think so..
Our life is so intertwined with real heros or that's the way I think of them...today we heard two girls who were sharing our Adapta Taxi..they were both mentally handicapped, had big problems with their speech...apparently they were coming home from their job...and as one left the cab..they both said to each other "see you monday, love you"...this said with difficulty and a kind of hiccup laugh...i thought, how super that they are friends and love each other..those are the heros in life, and especially too their families, as i noted the door of their homes were partly open as they were getting out of the cab and the driver said in both cases, 'there's your mom waiting for you'...we all need support and love...and no matter what language we speak, and what our ailment...basically that is what will keep everyone going and healthy, someone to care about and love...basically that's what everyone says, and today we could see it clearly..so that's it for today...g'nite.
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