While putting things away and trying to make our place tidy this evening..mac said, you do all the work around here, i hope they pay you...Well that was a bit of a surprise, so glad he noticed ...but I replied, well you help...oh yeah what do i do -- well I said, you carry our bag of laundry to the laundry room, you dry the dishes, you help to feed the cat. With that he kind of brightened up, and so on we went to the elevator and down to the dining room for dinner.. We manage to go about twice a week, which he enjoys and i'm beginning to think this might help us to get over the hump of "sundown syndrome'...which at times can get really out of hand.
On the way down he was keen to talk about his money or lack of, and this recurring theme happens just about every evening..thankfully by the time we get to the dining room he is distracted and manages to forget, but not too long after dinner he is on the same page, it is either his money, of which he certainly has enough i always hasten to tell him, and to show him...but it's never enough and the conversation can spin on and on, till I'm just about ready to drop...or it's to talk about his mother, and is she dead or alive and why didn't I tell him, why do I hide the information etc etc. It did little good to talk about the super phone call we got before going down - my cousin phoned from California...and he had a great conversation with him and also with his daughter, there was no distraction, as he hardly remembered the phone call...
Tonight i just about had it, and said so..'look that's enough, we go over this every night unless someone is visiting us, and I think that's it, stop, we will talk about this in the morning, when I'm brighter and have more patience to go over it so many times....surprise, that helped he said, o.k. and was o.k. with going to watch t.v. so sad though that we cannot talk about the politics in Canada, and the scandals going on in our Government...i heard this joke and it would have made him really laugh in the past..so I tried it, - said, the new program title for mayor Ford is "The Big Bong".. he just looked at me..and I just laughed and said, well you had to know a bit about the mayor and his drug problem...oh yeah he said that guy is always on t.v. well that was a step in the right direction.
His sense of humor though is still there and when the preposay said, as she finished getting him ready for bed..."now you are a new man' he said - and now you are quite a liar...she laughed and just loved it...said you are so funny ...and he is..he even managed to joke a bit when I got home from yesterdays day out and the day before - imagine i was able to get out for two afternoons without too many problems...I had prepared food, and some activity - helping Debbie with the laundry...and the dishes, making lunch later so this could happen..so that's the good news. Was going to make a kind of graph so he could see the time passing, but he can't really read or understand even pictures so that was out.
It's a challenge, and especially so as when I am home he is beside me like a lost puppy, as even now he is waiting for me, so must go, i've typed this at record speed so i know there's many errors...but wanted to get it down....g'nite.
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