The one thing we have learned with all this concern regarding Mac, is his strengths and not only his strengths, but OUR strengthes, the strength of a family all pulling together. This is family day in Ont. maybe in the rest of Canada, not sure, but for me this has been family weekend and without a doubt our family - Leslie, Gaye, Valerie, Glenna, Maureen, their spouses or consorts as mac used to call the; and of course grandchildren, and the real little star Great Grandchild Finley have all been there to support us through our bit of trial and sadness. The trial being to move mac to a holding place until such time as an opening was available at a long term facility. We ended up being absolutely sick about leaving him there, and as I mentioned in the last blog, we couldn't and leslie - went back for him with maureen, and apparently said, ok. Dad put your coat on we're going home!!!...how wonderful for mac.
Now we have discovered through looking at various residences with longterm facility connected that he is really not ready for such a place..he is able to carry on conversations, and although he doesn't walk well, he is walking and talking at a stage that is too advanced for most of these places, and this i had not realized, thinking he would meet others at the same stage and be in a safer environment for him and a less hectic time in helping him for me...well...what we did find out is...
That by moving to a residence with a facility for long term care, is that they can provide me with help - we will live in a safe and lovely apartment, NO STAIRS, HELP AT NIGHT AND MORNING and as well Mac and i can stay together until such time as he just cannot ...how terrific, so we have found the place or we're pretty sure we have. Today, Gaye and I confirmed it, over the weekend, she maureen and I travelled around looking for just this solution. Finally going back to the first one we looked at... - the one that mac's barber had recommended couple of months ago. as a matter of fact he will be the Barber there, he has been Mac's barber for over 40 years.
We were lucky in that they had two apartments available....and today we decided to take one, of course this will take some time, and we have been talking about it all day....with Mac saying...We are moving??? where WHY, etc. over and over. he will soon know it for a fact as we're thinking of moving in March....So, be prepared LACHINE, HERE WE COME.....G'night p.s. must get someone to put a picture on when we're there, or learn to put one on myself...
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