We certainly agreed, Mac and I, that he does not need the man from CLSC to give Mac a sponge bath...This is something I can do, and therefore, we will not have him every Friday. I called to cancel him for yesterday, but will call to tell the CLSC that unless he can give Mac a real shower, he should not bother to come anymore. This will make Mac very happy, apparently the shower being upstairs is not a good thing, perhaps the fact that Mac has problems going up and down stairs, this may cause law suits, didn't question it, but I really wanted someone stronger than myself to get him in and out of the shower..but in any case a sponge bath in the kitchen was not the answer for Mac, and listening to him getting really angry about the man plus becoming abusive in his language...well that added some fireworks to the decision.
This is something one has to avoid when working with people with Alzheimer's, FRUSTRATION, when it is hard to remember what happened ten minutes ago, not knowing just where one is..or even who or what is coming next...it is already hard..so having to do something that is so outside the box, i.e. standing in a cold kitchen almost naked to be washed by a stranger, well I can certainly understand the anger...only problem, the anger is usually directed at the caregiver..and hey that's me...So let's all agree here. for sure.
Then for the caregiver, in other words ...me, i find myself getting all uptight and yelling at absolutely nothing
so it's kind of good when Mac says in a neat nice calm voice..."why are you yelling"...then i think who is the sick person here..and we both end up laughing...When i put myself in his place I think he is a real brick and so very calm most of the time, and also quite humble, well it's really a learning experience all the time.
We were discussing how and where he lived, as he wanted to go home yesterday around lunch time, and was quite surprised to find out that he really was home; so imagine my surprise about an hour later when he said, "look let's get something straight here....who owns this house.? ME, right?? Not you... he is correct. but i wasn't too thrilled with the tone of things there, but kept my cool, and said, right, but we both paid for it, and who keeps it clean and does all the work ...well he was pretty sharp as he answered, "yes, but that's not the point...I own this house. Thankfully his attention was distracted when the phone rang, and almost at the same time, who should walk in with the amazing lovely baby, but Brianna our grandaughter with Finley.
Well won't go into the love, the fun, and games we had with the most wonderful of great grandaughters, but a certain great grandfather has been having a hard time staying awake all day today, after trailing that little one year old all around the house yesterday. So today has been a quiet and peaceful one with sleepyhead mac, and in fact he's watching t.v. and snoring...so g'nite.
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