One of the things that seems to be very common among support people when we discuss behaviours of the person we are caring for is the need to know where are the $$$. In many cases the person with A.seems to think that someone took their money, or that they will take their money. Thankfully in Mac's case he does not seem to think someone took his $$$, but that someone may take his money. With this in mind he checks his wallet carefully. Actually the process usually starts along with everything else, after dinner. He puts his wallet away in his drawer, but not before checking just how much is in there. BUT today he spent some - big problem, he forgot that he did this. Well we went over the amount spent, what it was spent on, and when at least 5 times, but he was still unhappy....so I decided to make up the amount missing, and then I said, you can pay me back when we go to the bank.
Well good thing I said that, as then he realized - hey I have more money in the bank. Good....so then we go through another process that takes place almost every day, and that is, how much he has, why he has it, i.e. he gets a pension, how he got it, worked for 40 years for CN, he put $$ in his retirement fund and now lo and behold he has this pension. Thankfully he can still read, though he doesn't read for amusement, reading his bank statement is his favourite reading material. Actually it would be kind of boring, but it really isn't as he then needs to know where each deposit and withdrawal came from...shades of his work as an Economist. Kind of good for me too, as I've never kept track of my statements, and this way I show him how much richer he is than I am...believe it or not it's great for his ego.
This because there is so much I do that he cannot, so sometimes knowing his $$$ does so much for us is great..and therefore, I make sure I tell him how much I appreciate being married to such a smartie with such a good pension. This then takes us to when did we get married...60 years ago??? how come I don't remember.marrying you.....
Well I am married to you now, right - right! o.k. I'm your second wife and you are my second husband, wow this is great, what a good looking husband I have...and he comments, o.k. if you're my wife, you better behave or else.... hmmmm what is or else...thankfully he always smiles and laughs when he says this. So another thing i'm thankful for is I really love my second husband and he loves me....g'nite, i'll be back next monday.
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