Monday, September 3. 2012 This is what we do

Mac has been hovering around for the past 30 minutes saying...this is what we do, right?  We bring the cat in,  you feed him,  then we go to bed.  I said this is what we do too, we watch t.v. till the weather forecast - then we bring the cat in, then we feed him, then we go to bed.   Right says mac this is what we do, but where do we go to bed...so after showing him our bedroom which is right next to the t.v. room which is right next to where I'm typing this ..it has taken some time, but we got it all understood and then, .i said i'll be right with you to watch the news...don't worry.  So he is happy now. 

This is the wonderful thing about Mac, it doesn't take much to make him happy, just clarify exactly what is bothering him, make sure he feels loved, he knows i'm always there and will take the time to explain...as we learned in our support group from the leader...know that you are the lucky one,  the person with A. is not.  He or she is the one who is wondring, and thinking, and trying to put the puzzle together,  This has stuck with me and so it's not hard to be patient when one realizes how lucky one is not to be in that kind of a position. 

The other wonderful thing is that he is so loving..he is so there for me and I cannot picture my life without him; also he enjoys so many little simple things that it takes my breath away.   walking tonight I said too bad we missed the sun going down.  Not really, look at that cloud it is edged with pink, that's the sun...and then we saw more and more pink edged clouds...wondrous, never ever looked at the clouds when i'm walking along a busy street, which we were.  As i said mac you made me forget how noisy the traffic is on St. john Baptiste...good for you...

So far his mood stays great, but then he is rarely in a position of frustration or put on the spot...I was reminded of the last  time which was when he was being tested by the doc... july 5,- as his level of understanding, where  - what and how lessens; the more he is frustrated and upset..even walking with a stick is now o.k. he can see for himself how necessary it is at times.   It takes time and patience but how worthwhile it is - so now to do what we have to do.. as this is what we do.

just to reiterate, these times are mainly in the evening...it's been a great day, with our two grandsons, Olivier and Noah...even a great night last night as they slept over...grandkids are the best.